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A NOTE TO MY CHILDREN: 40 LESSONS I'VE LEARNED

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A NOTE TO MY CHILDREN: 40 LESSONS I'VE LEARNED

Tatiana Franklin

Earlier this month, I turned 40 and I’ve been anticipating this milestone for a LONG time. The reason why is that I love my birthday because it is my personal opportunity to be thankful for everything that has happened in the last year and be excited about welcoming miracles for the next year. In a way, it’s my very own personal reset button.  So, as a tribute to this special day, I’ve decided to write a very personal, authentic, and intimate "lessons-learned-in-life" type of blog dedicated to my children, who are currently 9 years old and 3 months old. Although I would not have them read this now, it is my wish that as they embark on adulthood and when they are old and mature enough to grasp and appreciate the nature of this note, they will use it for their higher good. Although I could have made this list longer, in honor of my recent anniversary on this earth, I've gathered the following 40 nuggets of wisdom.  

To mi corazón (my heart) and mi manzanita (my little apple), these are for you with all my love. 

  1. Do what is right, ESPECIALLY when no one is watching. 
  2. If it doesn't nourish your soul, let that shit go. 
  3. Have the courage to be who you really are. Screw what everyone else thinks or says of you. Chances are, they wished they were you. 
  4. Remove the word settling from your vocabulary. Settling is for people who think they're not worthy of living the life of their dreams. 
  5. Avoid wasting your time trying to figure out assholes. Typically, assholes are mostly unhappy people and happy people don't have time to waste it being assholes. 
  6. It is ok to be lost, confused or not know the answer some times. Those are the moments when you learn and grow the most. 
  7. As tempted as you might be to think that some people are idiots, the truth is they are simply asleep. Those whose souls are awake understand the world in a harmonious, vast and purposeful way. 
  8. Spoil yourself. Until you find someone better at it than you. 
  9. Be the conscious creator of your own reality. If you don’t like what you see then you need to course-correct that shit.
  10. Find out what becoming love means and when you do, BE love as much as possible. 
  11. Don't let anyone's darkness, bitterness or drama disturb your inner peace. 
  12. To paraphrase Master Yoda, there is no such thing as “trying” – either you do or you don’t.
  13. Be your own hero but don't forget your faithful sidekicks - they might not be wearing capes.
  14. Become your own best friend first and foremost and go on and find more best friends after that.
  15. Stop thinking positively. Instead, BECOME positivity. 
  16. Whenever you’re after something of value that’s important to you, go balls deep and get the exact dream-whatever-it-is you wanted; leave nothing on the table. If you are going to spend a lot of time in your dream-whatever-it-is, you might as well make it a pleasure to own.
  17. From time to time, everyone needs to borrow wisdom from inspiring guides. I call mine my “board of directors.” Until you figure out which ones are yours, feel free to borrow from mine: The little Prince, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer, Don Miguel Ruiz, Louise Hay, Tony Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, Rumi, Albert Einstein, Colin Tipping, Maya Angelou, Pope Francis, Abraham/Esther Hicks, His Holiness Dalai Lama, E.E. Cummings, Mark Twain, Nelson Mandela, Walt Disney, Carl Sagan and Buddha.
  18. Carve time in your schedule to do absolutely NOTHING. 
  19. Spoil your kids with your time and presence - it's the best legacy you can give them and the one they will talk about for years to come.
  20. Truly understand your spouse and request to be understood in return. 
  21. Find out what your talents and gifts are and use them to lead a life with purpose. 
  22. Figure out early in life what your values are. When you feel conflicted or passionate about something, you know that those values are being stimulated. The more aware you are of this, the less confused you will be.
  23. Commit consciously and wait for THE ONE. He or she is the one that finally convinces you that your fears and self-criticism only live in your head. 
  24. Allow yourself to feel sadness and let it run its course on your own terms. Without experiencing sadness you would not know what joy feels like.
  25. Leave guilt in the past and anxiety in the future. All you ever want to know is the now. Live in the present, where happiness is. 
  26. Drink to celebrate, not to fight depression or avoid facing your feelings. 
  27. Always keep your promises no matter how big or small; especially to your spouse and your children.
  28. Avoid seeking distractions or chemicals to change your reality. If you don't like the life you live then change it and you won't need to escape from it.
  29. Create boundaries to keep anything and anyone that goes against your mojo out. 
  30. Shower your children with kisses as soon as they wake up. 
  31. Learn to be alone. If you can't stand to be alone with yourself, how do you expect anyone to love your company?
  32. When you truly fall in love, find out everything about them and speak the language that their heart understands. 
  33. Good intentions alone don’t build bridges or end wars. Add action to your intentions and success will always be on your side.
  34. Avoid getting too comfortable unless you're going to bed. When you're too comfortable in your personal or work relationships, you rob them of the thriving that comes through continuous effort.
  35. Take care of your soul, mind and body and keep cigarette smoke out of your lungs. Eat organic, drink water from glass containers, read package labels and stay away from colorants and any fake, altered shit.
  36. Develop an intimate relationship with manners, etiquette and consideration for others.
  37. Take the time to look good for yourself and continue to take care of yourself even if you’re single or even if you’ve been married for 20 years. Love your body because no one will ever love it as much as you can and when you do that, you teach others to love you.
  38. Food is a form of communication, learn it. 
  39. If you think something is worth the extra effort, do it regardless of the thousands of excuses, scenarios and assumptions that tell you it can’t be done. Don’t let your fears keep you from greatness. 

    Last but not least....
  40. Like this note, life is explicit. At some point in your life, someone might say something that will hurt your feelings, someone will not do the “right thing” in your book, someone might leave you unexpectedly in spite of your hopes, someone might accuse you of doing something to them, or someone might be convinced you're someone you're not. This and more might happen to you and you might not understand why it happened you. You might question why it even happened to you on the first place. Know that this happened for a reason; for your higher good. This transcends "accepting the apology you never got" - this is truly mastering the understanding of the lessons that life will teach you. It may not come to you immediately, but it will. So trust, learn and live.

So what have you learned in your own journey so far? I’m secretly hoping to inspire you to inspire others in your own personal way. I’d love to hear from you. What “lesson” would you want to leave others with? As always, I am here to help you reach your goals and become the success you seek. Leave me a comment or drop me a note. Let’s Talk!